One of our dear listeners asks..."If it can't be interpreted at least 2 ways it's probably not true." What does this mean?... Thanks for asking! I hope this answers your question... Please grab your SACRED S.O.L. D.A.T.E. JOURNAL (Daily Action To Engage yourself.)...

Today we talk about what to do when certain emotions (especially ANGER) come ”knocking on your door” and how to answer them… StrANGER? DANGER? How often do you feel anger and what do you do about it? There are 6 primary emotions… Happiness, sadness, fear, anger,...

Feeling tired, HEAVY, sluggish, numb, weak…this will WAKE YOU UP! It was only my arm this morning, but it was alarming... This is YOUR ALARM... It's time to WAKE UP! W.A.K.E. Wide open. Action. Taking massive action. Kicking it up a notch...or two. Energize yourself....

When was the last time you took an inventory of YOU and your stuff? Perhaps it's time to put IT on a shelf and take a look at it... Please grab your SACRED S.O.L. D.A.T.E. JOURNAL (Daily Action To Engage yourself.) TODAY’S SACRED S.O.L. STEP: Where in your life do you...

If you’re saying that you’re fine, but you’re NOT fine…you’re lying...AND missing out on the most valuable power available to you in love and life... Please grab your SACRED S.O.L. D.A.T.E. JOURNAL (Daily Action To Engage yourself.) TODAY’S SACRED S.O.L. STEP: Where...

The next time someone tells you to "Let it go," remind yourself of this... Don’t Let It Go…Let Yourself Grow! AND stop letting yourself Go. Let yourself...GO Please grab your SACRED S.O.L. D.A.T.E. JOURNAL (Daily Action To Engage yourself.) TODAY’S SACRED S.O.L. STEP:...

What IF there's something you can’t change about you…how would you accept it? Today's a lesson of acceptance… Past. Present. Future. Please grab your SACRED S.O.L. D.A.T.E. JOURNAL (Daily Action To Engage yourself.) TODAY’S SACRED S.O.L. STEP: Where in your life right...

Are YOU ready? Ready for WHAT? Being ready is required for anything, but it’s NOT EVERYTHING…here’s why… What does it really mean to BE READY? "Within reach, easily available, suitable, prepared…" LET’S DEFINE/REDEFINE R.E.A.D.Y…. R - Reach — Within reach. What are...

Today’s lesson is not just about about being territorial…it’s about truly being a leader. Being YOU. Will influence others. More than telling them how to BE. Lead from what you live… Please grab your SACRED S.O.L. D.A.T.E. JOURNAL (Daily Action To Engage yourself.)...

Going on vacation at the beach isn't the only way to experience incredible relaxation..try this! Have you ever had a day with no opinion, and instead…you simply allowed yourself to go with the flow and flow with the go? I had one today and highly recommend it. This is...

What you see is what you get! Or do you?Once we did the “Do Over,” this is what happened next… Today’s S.O.L. STORY was inspired by my DO OVER last night. Context is more valuable than classic content. When you feel as though you have it all figured out, consider...

Mistakes, failures, losses, missteps, missed opportunities, whatever it is…what if you could have a do over? You can, and this is how... Stop starting over or trying to "start over." Be you. Simply. Do. Do O.V.E.R. O — Opportunity. Opportunities are created. Give...

  Looking for something new without letting go of everything old? Perhaps it’s not what you’re doing, but the order in which you’re doing it. Instead of starting where you are, start where you’re headed…and begin there. That’s right. Do it in reverse! You can think of...

Diets don't work. But THIS does. If you've ever struggled with your weight, then THIS is for YOU! A trip to the WELL… If you're thirsty, go to the well. If you're hungry, go to the W.E.L.L. If you want to love your life and life's work well, then SIP ON LIFE WELL....

YOU'RE INVITED TO A LIVE UPCOMING S.O.L. DATE...If you're seeking your "Happy Ever After"...it's time to stop waiting and start S.O.L.DATING. I'll show you how. Please grab your SACRED S.O.L. D.A.T.E. JOURNAL (Daily Action To Engage yourself.) TODAY’S SACRED S.O.L....

When you commit to being fully engaged with you and your life, you begin a lifelong love affair with being and staying MERRY’D. Here’s how… Will YOU M.E.R.R.Y. YOU? Mission - What is YOUR business...and plan? Engagement - be fully present to who you are and what...

If life has sorta brought you to your knees, then it’s a perfect time to say GET ENGAGED…and get UP! Engagement begins the moment you ASK and say YES. It’s time to do both… A.S.K. Ask. Ask and you shall receive. Say YES. Say YES to your desires. Keep. Keep your...

It begins with “Will YOU?…” Or does it? Today we’ll find out… Please grab your SACRED S.O.L. D.A.T.E. JOURNAL (Daily Action To Engage yourself.) TODAY’S SACRED S.O.L. STEP: Where in your life right now are you in need of a new perspective? Journal about this. Make a...

GOALS aren't working. But THIS works every time... What you say is what you get. Say it...IS so. How trustworthy are you with your commitments to YOURSELF? It's time to put a PINKY on it... Are you ALL IN to what you say you’re in to? Please grab your SACRED S.O.L....

Are You Love-Able? This is the bazillion dollar question. Being LOVE-ABLE changes everything… The BIG MOVE… A.B.L.E. Are you ABLE? What makes you able? Acting. Believing. Learning. Evolving. Please grab your SACRED S.O.L. D.A.T.E. JOURNAL (Daily Action To Engage...

If you've ever been the topic of discussion in anyone's lunch date, then this one's for YOU. Let's give them something to talk about... "Have you ever wondered WHO are the people that all the women gossip about while having lunch?" This is what I asked my daughter as...

This DATE, by far, exceeds ALL other dates I’ve ever had! Seriously…this experience changed my life and it can change yours too… The walls of my heart home were bleeding…but bleeding is a part of healing. If you’ve ever wished you could exchange your aching heart for...

“Get your hands off my freakin’ radishes…” Yes, for a moment I lost my peace. But WE don’t have to. Here’s how to find and guard your peace… Remember this... YOU are not missing anything or anyone in order to be YOU. You are you. As you are. You’re like a puzzle. Even...

If you struggle with follow-through or giving yourself permission to do “whatever”…today’s the day to connect it with your mission. Yes, here’s how to persevere… Don't quit on you, your purpose, mission, or life... YOU CAN DO IT. Please grab your SACRED S.O.L....

When was the last time you played? I mean, really played your heart out? It’s been a long time for me too, so this is what we’re gonna do about it… It's time to PLAY, my dear... P- People. Who do you want to play with? Plan it. L- Love. What do you love to do? Plan...

  It starts with your breath. This is what he said as he was causing me to feel intense pain… It was the best and worst massage ever! As I was unconsciously resisting. He was lifting my leg, while pushing his fist into my hip. Then he reminded me that it’s my brain...

If you feel as though you’ve lost your passion, or are simply going through the motions — uninspired, this will ignite your flame! Do as Stela does... Consider this… Consider your passion. Passion? PASS I ON? And if you feel as though you’ve lost it, perhaps it’s...

If you desire to be a priority in the life of someone you love, then THIS is absolutely required… Not only is THIS required, but without it, you’ll continue to suffer from the Poor Me Syndrome. THIS is the 2nd secret in the Seven Secrets to being in love TO GET HER....

Now that you know that the SECRET to you being able to access the power of dating and loving yourself is for YOU to BE THE WOMAN, here’s how to begin putting IT all TO GET HER… It starts with this… YOU. NO LONGER WAITING OR RUNNING. No longer waiting for someone else...

 Waiting for a man to rise up and "BE THE MAN" before YOU BE THE WOMAN is not only costing you valuable lifetime...but it's costing you the love and life you desire and deserve. Here's how to stop waiting... STOP WAITING. START DATING. Today as we enter into...

Hesitation. Okay, I said it. It’s the abyss that occurs between the moment you have an inspired thought or idea, and bam…you hesitate. How long does it last? How much is it costing you? How do you STOP it — especially when it comes to you not being you? Let’s find...

You’re complete just as you are. You don’t need anything or anyone to make you whole. I’d urge you to consider this… Today’s S.O.L. STORY was inspired by my meditation tree...it's dying...prematurely. Take off all your labels and take a stand for YOU. The real, true...

What if you didn’t have to feel trapped by your life anymore? What if there was a way to get out of your painful place and enter into the possibility of your purpose? What IF…? Today’s SACRED S.O.L. STORY was inspired by my morning workout partner… The Big. Fat. Fly....

If you don’t know why to say NO, you’re going to keep saying YES to the things that rob your time. Today we’re going to take a close look at what your NO and your KNOW mean to you… Please grab your SACRED S.O.L. D.A.T.E. JOURNAL (Daily Action To Engage yourself.)...

  “Meant to be” is in the past… "Meant to be" is created by you in the present, but only lives in your past. Stop looking for it in your future or you'll rob yourself and your future. “Someone Robbed My Bank!…” Or at least, that’s how it feels Today’s S.O.L. STORY was...

Your age is NOT your problem, but using it as an excuse is! This is what I was doing AND what I’ve done about it. You can too… So this is what I tell myself...51 is fun. What is 51 anyway? Please grab your SACRED S.O.L. D.A.T.E. JOURNAL (Daily Action To Engage...

What you're caring about may be making you TOXIC. It's time to care for you and YOUR CARE... Have you been giving your care to what's making you toxic versus what's creating health in your life? I know, I was doing it too. So much so, that I didn't even notice that it...

If you've ever suffered with feelings of unworthiness or feeling as though you're "not enough"... LISTEN UP! Are you appreciating or depreciating? This is the bazillion dollar question. Today we discuss your value, worth, and WELLTH… Worth is what something will sell...

It’s time to settle some things about YOU once and for all. Are you ready to get down and dirty?… Without the dirt and water, there is no place to take root. However, when mixed together, dirt and water make MUD. A lot of MUD… Messy. Ugly. Dirty. But does it have to...

If you don’t start today, when are you going to start? Today’s message will power you UP for immediate action and results… Have you ever said, I can’t? Have you ever said, I can’t? BECAUSE… It’s too late for me… I’m too old… I don’t have time… My past is too _______…...

This is a declaration of the journey of self acceptance so you can own your power... STOP THE INSANITY… How are you comparing your boobs, yourself with someone or something else? Make a decision and declaration today...to STOP! Please grab your SACRED S.O.L. D.A.T.E....

If irritation is inspiration, then my life is EXTRA INSPIRING for me right now, and so can yours… But here’s how we turn it around… Today’s S.O.L. STORY was inspired by the photo shoot I had yesterday… Are YOU comfortable with attention? Positive attention? “The...

In order to discover, you must DIS YOUR COVER... Please grab your SACRED S.O.L. D.A.T.E. JOURNAL (Daily Action To Engage yourself.) TODAY’S SACRED S.O.L. STEP: Are you willing to "Dis Your Cover" and discover? I would love to hear what happens for you... If you’ve...

Knowing you or anyone else requires asking questions. Or as I like to say, becoming masterful at the art of THE ASK. Are you willing to practice this powerful skill? Questionable? The word "sketchy" comes to mind... Usually a lot of judgment and fear are involved. As...

Dreams or nightmares? Doing or being? Today you’ll find out… YOU are more than the sum of your resume. But YOU can be summed up well in the heart of your dreams. As long as you’re connected with them. Connected with YOU. It’s time to start dreaming again. Dreaming...

“We don’t see our future, we hear it.” Here’s how to activate your present and future with POWER… Today we continue into Chapter 7: Engagement Two — Know You and discuss the vital importance of the words we speak. Please grab your SACRED S.O.L. D.A.T.E. JOURNAL (Daily...

It's time to meet you. All of YOU. Totally uncovered, exposed, and ready to be discovered... Are you ready? Get into a quiet, safe, comfortable place to go through this Guided Visualization as I take you into your heart and soul...into Your Meeting. Your Naked And...

Are you showing up as a great lover? Today we begin the journey inside the secret process of becoming a great lover... Seriously, are you currently showing up as a great lover? Or are you expecting everyone else to? If you continue to expect others to do what you will...

Would you be willing to allow yourself to be the one who is seen through the eyes of unconditional love? Imagine that… Are you ready? To... 1. Meet You. 2. Know You. 3. Value You. 4. Be You. 5. Love You. You're embarking on a sacred journey that has the power to...

You’ve been hurt before and perhaps your heart’s bled as much as it can bleed. So now what? You have a choice. We have a choice. Today’s S.O.L. STORY was inspired by my dear little Yorkie, Stela…and Truth #7 of Date Yourself Well. (We continue the conversation of YOUR...

Are you a seeker? What are you seeking? Are you searching for something? What is it that you’re looking for? Perhaps it’s not what you think… Today we continue the conversation of YOUR RICH ME STORY OF TRUTH…Chapter 5 — Pages 44-45. Please grab your SACRED S.O.L....

If you think getting better, or being your best, is going to get what you want, think again! This is the TRUTH about your BEST… Is it possible that you trying to “be your best” is actually hurting you? YES! AND… It’s keeping you from expressing the truest, fullest,...

Stop looking for love in all the wrong places. Today I discuss Truth #4 that’s foundational for creating your rich me story of truth. We continue our discussion of your "Rich Me" story of truth in Chapter 5 of Date Yourself Well... 1. When we chase love, it runs....

Is it possible that your long list of wants is getting in the way of YOU creating your desires? Let’s find out… Stop trying to get what you want. This is where your happiness begins… Instead, of trying to get what you want, you must know what you desire. Knowing what...

When you take care of yourself, you will be taken care of. This is how… Today we’re discussing Chapter 5…My (Your) Rich Me Story Of Truth. Please grab your SACRED S.O.L. D.A.T.E. JOURNAL (Daily Action To Engage yourself.) TODAY’S SACRED S.O.L. STEP:  Are you taking...

You can move beyond your poor story of pain and unnecessary suffering, by writing your new story of pleasurable possibility. Here’s how I did it… Request your FREE copy of Date Yourself Well — The Best-Selling 12 Engagements Of Becoming The Great Lover Of Your Life...

It’s The Poor Me Syndrome. BUT. Your “Poor Me Story” is keeping you poor…and today I share what’s next. We continue our Date Yourself Well series in Chapter 4 — The Poor Me Syndrome. Please grab your SACRED S.O.L. D.A.T.E. JOURNAL (Daily Action To Engage yourself.)...

Oftentimes “unforgiveness” is at the core of this debilitating syndrome. Here’s what I did about it… Today I share Chapter 3: The Superwoman Syndrome. (Pages 29-32)... Please grab your SACRED S.O.L. D.A.T.E. JOURNAL (Daily Action To Engage yourself.) TODAY’S SACRED...

The feeling of running, but not getting ahead or feeling completely overwhelmed isn’t foreign to me. Today I share my personal story of heartache and pain, and how I got out of it… Today we're discussing Chapter 3: The Superwoman Syndrome. (Pages 29-32.) Please grab...

Feeling broken doesn't mean you're broken. It means you're disconnected and disengaged, and there IS a solution... Today we're diving into Chapter 2: The Disengagement Syndrome (Page 25-27) in Date Yourself Well. Please grab your SACRED S.O.L. D.A.T.E. JOURNAL (Daily...

Whether you're married or single... Happily or not happy at all... I believe we all dream of our version of the "fairytale" love affair that sweeps us off our feet, and we ride off into the sunset with Prince Charming. BUT what if Prince Charming becomes not so...

How’s your love…life? Really. How IS your love and life? Today we begin a journey of discovery that will take you on a sacred romance (WOMANCE) to places you’ve never been, and a healing you never knew your soul required. WELL…COME Aboard! This is where it all began....

(LIVE FROM HUNTINGTON BEACH, CALIFORNIA) Could you use a little more fun in your life? I get! Today’s SOL STORY will not only be fun, but take you to a very powerful, peaceful place... I Thought They Were Sharks... Yes, I thought they were sharks!! Thank God they...

Join me today in the second part of a very powerful interview with an incredible woman. Please welcome, Sandra L. Brown. as we discuss her book, "How To Spot A Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved..." Sandra L. Brown, M.A. holds a Masters degree in Counseling and is...

Join me today in the first part of a very powerful podcast series with an incredible woman. Please welcome, Sandra L. Brown. as we discuss her book, "How To Spot A Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved..." Sandra L. Brown, M.A. holds a Masters degree in Counseling and...

Trusting others requires first trusting yourself. Today I show you how to protect yourself and begin building the trust necessary for lifelong love... This is the beginning of a powerful series on protecting yourself from yourself and others. Please grab your SACRED...

If you’re waiting around for someone else to make you a priority, you’re going to wait a LONG time. Perhaps a lifetime. YOUR life. Time. Here’s what I’ve learned about the key to PRIORITY, especially in relationships. Feeling lonely in your relationship? Wishing he...

Illusion is a false idea or belief. What if you have false unconscious beliefs? Don’t worry, today I’ll share a technique that will help restore EASE back into your life. ILLusion starts with ILL for a reason. Today’s S.O.L. STORY is inspired by the conversation we’ve...

I’ve redefined fear, and here’s what I’m calling her… Here are 4 things I’ve discovered about fear: 1. It requires a new way to breathe. I’ve stopped holding my breath. Instead, I inspire. 2. It requires a new way to be. To be here. I tell myself, “I’m here.” 3. It...

I’ve rediscovered fear, and here’s what I see…The Metamorphosis. Today’s S.O.L. STORY is a continuation of the conversation we’ve been having about going all out…all in…discovering…fear…scared…sacred… I call it “The Metamorphosis…” It’s a natural process, although it...

When you’re still hiding, and you don’t even know it….DO THIS! Today’s S.O.L. STORY is inspired by my own personal journey of adventure and healing. It’s led me to a new AHA…revelation…insight…decision…commitment. Instead of "trying to help you..." I’m simply going to...

Please grab your SACRED S.O.L. D.A.T.E. JOURNAL (Daily Action To Engage yourself.) TODAY’S SACRED S.O.L. STEP: Where have you been feeling fear in your life? Allow fear to write you a letter. Then when you're feeling calm, write a letter to fear and calm her down like...

Disagreements. We all have them. And they're necessary to our growth if we're willing to SEE them THIS way... Today's S.O.L. STORY was inspired by a few intense conversations I've had recently. Is it a disagreement or resistance to growth? Are we here to know it all,...

Today I share some true confessions, and hopefully help you in your journey from scared to sacred. Growth is uncomfortable. There’s no way around it, but through it. Today’s S.O.L. STORY was inspired by a couple things… 1. A decade old picture. 2. An almost lifetime...

How do you know if you’re loving yourself or not? Here’s one way to know…and grow! So, we’ve been talking about judgment, and how it’s killing your love…life, right? Today I’m going to show you how to grow what you know, and GROW. Grow your love. Grow your life....

 Today I’m going to show you HOW judgment is killing your love…life, and what to do about it. How do you define judgment? THIS is the meaning of judgment… And the REDEFINED meaning that we’re going to give the J.U.D.G.E.… Justify. Undervalue and underestimate....

Today I’m going to share one of my biggest breakthroughs that has affected every area of my life… S.L.E.E.P. I take my sleep very seriously. I mean, VERY. And after this episode, I believe you will too. When it comes to sleep there are 2 requirements: 1. You do it. 2....

Today we’re going to talk about what happens when you DON’T know and love yourself, and what you can do about it... Yes, it’s the PAINFUL PROBLEM that no one really wants to talk about, including me for many years. What I’m ultimately saying is that when you DON’T...

Today’s S.O.L. STORY was inspired by my walk in Central Park. Perhaps you’ve been here too. I wonder... I LOVE LOVE LOVE walking in Central Park. There were people everywhere today. The grass was filled with people sunbathing, sharing a picnic, relaxing and hanging...

What comes first? The love or the feeling? The feeling or the love? Is love a feeling? The love or the date? The date or the love? Is love a date? Or is it a LIFE? Let’s find out… We just finished an incredible 84 episode series…called "Enough Is Enough" highlighting...

In order to write a love story, there must be love. Here’s how to find it and begin telling a new story… Kim McMillen said, “When I loved myself enough I found my voice and wrote this little book.” Writing your love story begins with you finding your voice. It starts...

There’s a taste to freedom, a certain deliciousness that can sipped on and savored daily. Here’s how… Kim McMillen said, “When I loved myself enough I began to taste freedom.” Yes, and I began to... STAND. IN. POWER. Your significance, strength, and solutions are...

Connecting your heart and soul will make you whole. It starts with your heart, and the rest will follow… If you stay in your head, you’re dead. If you follow your heart, you’re fed. Kim McMillen said, “When I loved myself enough I realized my mind can torment and...

Perhaps you're experiencing ADD because you’re lacking your ATT…the ATTention to your call which is to first and foremost LOVE LOVE, LOVE YOURSELF, LOVE OTHERS, LOVE YOUR LIFE. Here's how... Give it your attention. ALL of your attention. In the present moment....

Fear’s not fear unless you fear it. So today I’m going to teach you a powerful strategy for dealing with fear… Have you ever thought about fear in this way? It’s usually not WHAT we fear, but WHY we fear what we fear. Imagine getting to that understanding, and no...

Have you ever thought that "self love" is selfish, self-centered, or arrogant? Well, I have great news for you...you're not alone. Today I show you why you're NOT alone, and why self love isn't only about you. Kim McMillen said, “When I loved myself enough I began...

In a very noisy, loud, fast-paced world, it’s easy to forget to pause and create the sacred space between your notes. Today we're going to tap into this profound quiet... As well as celebrate and appreciate it. Without the silence there is no music. Without the...

If you’re trying to be enough, it’ll never be enough. You’ll never be enough. What you’re really seeking isn’t a quantity, but a quality. This is what qualifies you… Kim McMillen discovered, “When I loved myself enough I forgave myself for all the times I thought I...

Stop procrastinating your feelings. If your life has become heavy, overwhelming, or anxious, THIS will lighten you up… Kim McMillen said, “When I loved myself enough I learned to grieve the hurts in life when they happen instead of making my heart heavy from lugging...

Today you're going to receive your permission to matter. Real big. It all matters because you matter. Kim McMillen said, “When I loved myself enough I quit having to be right which makes being wrong meaningless.” If being wrong is meaningless, then so is being right....

This isn't simply about the cost, but the HIGH, painful cost of not loving yourself dear soul...today we're going to expose it and make some new decisions. It's time to count the cost, so you can create the value. Kim McMillen shared, “When I loved myself enough I was...

This is the billion dollar cure for your ills of despair. The dis-ease comes and goes, like a chronic ailment, but it IS possible to discover the EASE that you’re seeking. Kim McMillen reminds us, “When I loved myself enough I could be at ease with the comings and...

What is it? What would you and your life look like without all the other junk that’s not working well in your life? Kim McMillen said, “When I loved myself enough I started eating organically grown food (except for those occasional fruit pies of course.)” It's time to...

Have you ever thought that perhaps anger and arrogance are here to teach us something? Here's the lesson... As with any emotion or feeling, there are lessons in the madness... Kim McMillen reminds us, “When I loved myself enough I came to see how my anger teaches...