What if someone in your life is making you feel miserable, then what? Perhaps you’re choosing to have a relationship with “UNHAPPY…”

Why are you allowing another person to “make you” versus you creating you and the desires of your heart…you creating “YOUR HAPPY?”

First, go back and listen to yesterday’s episode, “Own YOUR Happiness!”

Second, Own YOUR consequences and only yours.

That’s right!

And this may mean that you have to STOP owing everyone else’s.

If you have someone in your life who continues to act in such a way that you’re spending a lot of your time trying to clean up their messes or your life is in chaos because of them…

Then it’s time to take a look at WHY you’re choosing it.

You may think that you’re not choosing it, but at the end of the day, you’re committed to it at some level.

And you may say, no…but I’m committed to him or her, and our relationship.

However, is this really a relationship, or is it YOU trying to change someone else so YOU can be happy.

Is it a “relationship” or a “reaction?”

If someone needs to change for YOU to be happy, then it’s time for you to change.

Here’s how…

#1: Change your perspective.

Become the leader in your own life. Own your own happiness and consequences to the choices you’re making.

#2: Change what you’re choosing (and creating.)

Happy or unhappy?

If you feel as though you must be unhappy to be in this relationship, then you must ask yourself if this is what you choose.

You can choose happy, and if YOU no longer fit in the relationship because you ARE happy, then be willing to see it as it is.

Is it possible that you’ve chosen to be in a relationship with “UNHAPPY?”

And is it possible that you’re choosing to blame it on someone else?

If you’re unhappy, it’s your responsibility to do something about it. Not someone else.

But you may say, but what if they don’t change?

Yes, there will be consequences for this, but they’re not YOUR consequences.

Make YOUR choices and OWN your consequences, no one else’s.

When you do, you won’t have time for that.

Perhaps you’ve been so distracted by someone else’s unhappy consequences that you’re now taking them on as your own, and it’s keeping you from OWING YOUR OWN CONSEQUENCES.

For example, the consequence (or result) of the decisions that YOU’RE making.

Not the consequences that someone else is creating.

That’s not only called enabling, but it’s called YOUR CHOICE to give someone else your ability to choose another way.

If something in your life’s not working, then make a choice to do something different. Even if it means doing something that’s unfamiliar and uncomfortable.

At the end of the day, YOU have the power to choose your attitude, your gratitude, and your actions.

You have the power to choose to CHOOSE.

Remember that not choosing is also a choice.


Be true to yourself, and you’ll become your true self.

This is the consequence (result) of living in truth.

There’s no other alternative, unless you’re choosing someone else’s consequence(s).

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Where are you paying the price of your own happiness for someone else’s debt of consequences?

STOP. Start owning your power to create your own consequences (results.)

Thank you for being here, and allowing me to sip on life with you.

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xo Dr. Shannon. Inspiring minds that want to grow and hearts that want to know, so you can love you, your life, and your life’s work well. ONE SIP AT A TIME.

A special thanks to the following souls for helping me launch our WOMEN SIPPING ON LIFE podcast…

Intro/Outro done by UNI V. SOL 

Outro music by Jay Man: Mind Over Matter (www.ourmusicbox.com) 

Podcast cover design and web site done by: Pablo Aguilar (www.webdesigncreator.com)

Podcast cover photo by Kate Montague of KM Captured (www.kmcaptured.com)