Today’s episode is a continuation of yesterday’s EPISODE 118: Why I Don’t Set Goals. It’s a more detailed explanation of the 3 Secrets of why I don’t set goals, and what works when it comes to creating change.

For me it began with wanting something different and new, while being tired (and done) with trying to use traditional goal-setting methods to create what I desired.

Then one day I heard the words, conscious, grateful, and fearless in my heart.

That day I made the decision to make these 3 words my FOCUS for the entire year.

In that year I created massive results, incredible change, and experienced the desires of my life becoming my reality.

Since that day I haven’t stopped being conscious, grateful, and fearless.

I had discovered a new way to create change after learning these 3 secrets…

1. Goal-setting doesn’t work.

If you desire incredible change, it’s time to get conscious about what you desire to change, and the commitments you’re making to it.


2. Change is natural, healthy, and easy.

Does that sound crazy?

Seriously, change isn’t hard. Perhaps it’s because you’re resisting change, or attempting to set goals time and time again, that’s making it seem hard.

Chasing a carrot you never seem to catch, while running from a stick that’s chasing you…now that’s HARD.

Running from your desires and dreams…that’s even harder!

Instead, get your desires and dreams out in front of you.

Begin to create the change you desire.

When you get on board with change, it becomes easy.

Now I didn’t say, it’s without work. However, work is creative energy.

When you put your creative energy toward what you’re committed to and you’re “ALL IN”, and in an inspired, creative mode…it’s easy!

You’re not the same person you once were. You’re changing every day.

You’re either growing up or growing down.

You’re either creating constructively or deconstructing. You get to decide.

What are you going to put your energy on?

The reality is, we were designed to grow, and change.

That’s why we’re not still pooping in our pants, with someone else changing our diapers. Thank God.

We’ve learned. We’ve grown. We started walking. We started talking.

Change is natural. Resisting change is unnatural.

Change is growth.

I believe people resist it because they had a bad experience with “goal-setting” in the past.

It’s about creating, building, fully experiencing, and growth.

Natural. Healthy. Easy.

3. Disagreement causes distraction.

A lot of times when it comes to creating the desires of our hearts, we say we don’t have TIME for it. We put it on the back burner of our lives.

The more you say this, the less time you’ll have for it.

When is the good day?

When is the right time for you to go all in with your life?

To fully commit and create the changes you say you desire?

You say there’s no time or too many distractions…

But if you get in AGREEMENT with the desires of your heart and fully commit to creating change the distractions go away because you’re no longer focused on them.

You’re all in or you’re not.

One sip at a time. One step at a time…fully AGREEING with the desires of your heart.

These 3 Secrets can help set you free.

Give up the goal-setting.

Start committing to what you desire.

Stop resisting change, and saying it’s hard.

Get on board and change on your terms.

Get in agreement with yourself, and your desires.

Please grab your SACRED S.O.L. D.A.T.E. JOURNAL (Daily Action To Engage yourself.)


What would you like to change in your life?

Write it down. Make a commitment to go ALL IN.

Thank you for being here, and allowing me to sip on life with you.

Please come over to for some free resources, including my Engagement Checklist + Evaluation Rating, Six Sacred S.O.L. DATE Secrets…and a FREE copy of my best-selling book, Date Yourself Well. You can also check out my Dr. Shannon Facebook Page for more daily S.O.L. TRAINING.

I look forward to seeing you again tomorrow. Please invite your best girlfriends to come and join our S.O.L. PARTY.

xo Dr. Shannon. Inspiring minds that want to grow and hearts that want to know, so you can love you, your life, and your life’s work well. ONE SIP AT A TIME.

A special thanks to the following souls for helping me launch our WOMEN SIPPING ON LIFE podcast…

Intro/Outro done by Uni V. SOL 

Outro music by Jay Man: Mind Over Matter ( 

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