In today’s episode I answer a question about the difference between CERTAINTY and CONFIDENCE.

Recently one of my S.O.L SISTERS (after listening to EPISODE 98: Not So Chic In NYC) asked me to explain the difference between certainty and confidence.

So here’s my answer…

(Btw, thanks again for asking, Michelle!)

Like CHIC, certainty and confidence DO NOT come from the outside, in.

Certainty and confidence are about what you’re feeling, being, believing, and knowing on the inside.

Certainty is a sense of knowing that comes from the heart.

It doesn’t come from the head. It’s being led by the heart.

It comes from clearly knowing the TRUTH, and the truth about your desires.

It’s like the “Sixth Sense.” (Knowing that you know that you know.)

And no one can talk you out of it.

When certainty is asked questions, it rises up with a deeper level of truth.

When uncertainty is asked questions, it shrinks to levels of insecurity and doubt. Often leading to excuses and more explanations.

If you find yourself excusing, explaining, and/or apologizing, you’re NOT coming from place of certainty.

One way to become certain when you feel uncertain is to simply admit with certainty that you DON’T KNOW.

Once you’re clear about it, your certain uncertainty can become certainty with truth.

Certainty isn’t about knowing everything, but being honest about what you do (and do not) know.

Confidence involves certainty.

Confidence is trusting what you know.

It’s also taking actions with the trust that you have in God, yourself, and the process…

Certainty is knowing. Confidence is trusting.

Knowing and trusting what?

Knowing THE TRUTH.

Trusting THE TRUTH.

Knowledge of the truth gives us freedom.

Trusting the truth will allow you to act in freedom…freely and in power.

Allow your heart to lead and guide you into more knowledge of the TRUTH.

Know the truth about YOU.

Don’t allow fear to stop you from knowing TRUTH.

Stop pretending like you know, or acting like you’re “all that”…confident and chic. Be honest. Be in truth.

What do you really believe?

The truth is that you were created in the image of LOVE.

What do you love? What’s loving and lovable about you? Who do you love? What do you love? Do you love yourself?

Know. Trust. Be certain. Be confident. You’ll be unstoppable.

SO…where do you start?

You start with loving yourself and the truth about YOU.

Do this by spending time with yourself so you can get to know YOU.

To know you is to love you.

What do you think?

What do you feel?

What do you desire?

Please grab your SACRED S.O.L. D.A.T.E. JOURNAL (Daily Action To Engage yourself.)


Write down the truth that you’re absolutely certain about.

Write down the truth about what your absolutely confident about.

Commit to your certainty and confidence today.



For more episodes on certainty and confidence, check out:

EPISODE 037 Woman Of Certainty
EPISODE 088: Overrated Confidence

Thank you for being here, and allowing me to sip on life with you.

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xo Dr. Shannon. Inspiring minds that want to grow and hearts that want to know, so you can love you, your life, and your life’s work well. ONE SIP AT A TIME.

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