EPISODE 088: Overrated Confidence
When I say, “confidence”, what comes to mind for you? Really? Do you feel confident, and how do you define confidence? Today I’m going to help you answer these questions for yourself, and get to know what true confidence really is by redefining your confidence.
Because confidence is not only overrated, it’s misunderstood.
This topic was inspired by a Facebook Live I did earlier today on my Dr. Shannon Page, while I was wearing my “infamous” pants. I did an episode about the blue version of these pants a while ago. (EPISODE 064: My Exotic Pants And Red Shoes Got Noticed)
One of the big things that gets in the way of confidence is COMPARISON.
The truth is, comparison never works!
We can never win in the game of comparison.
Being BETTER than someone else isn’t confidence.
So what does “Overrated Confidence” mean?
How can we learn from it?
One of the BIG KEYS to confidence is LOVING yourself well…what you are, who you are, what you’re all about.
But let’s go even deeper…
So many people are seeking confidence.
Seriously, I believe it’s overrated.
Why? Because it’s misunderstood.
Being confident for the sake of confidence isn’t really confidence.
We may think it is, but it’s not.
It’s time to REDEFINE CONFIDENCE.
The opposite of confidence is insecurity.
The bigger concern is what’s causing the insecurity.
Identify what’s causing your insecurity. This will help you redefine what true confidence means to you.
Insecurity is selfish.
For you to be insecure you have to be thinking about what everyone else is thinking about you.
Insecurity is very self-centered.
When we get our minds centered too much on ourselves, we can get insecure very quickly.
This is also where fear comes from.
Fear comes from being focused too much on ourselves.
If the truth about YOU is that you’re NOT selfish, then you ARE confident. Deep down. This IS the truth about you.
Confidence redefined is TRUTH.
Insecurity is popular…and it’s very common.
Insecure people strive to be popular.
Pretending like you’re confident to prove to someone else that you’re confident (or popular) is again, OVERRATED.
It’s a huge, deceptive game!
True confidence isn’t even about confidence.
It’s about TRUTH.
The truth about you. You being your most authentic self and loving yourself well.
Confidence is standing in that truth and love.
Being the TRUE, CONFIDENT YOU.
Not TRYING to be, but BEING.
Confidence is knowledge of, belief in, living in the truth. This is TRUE CONFIDENCE.
If you’d like to truly express your confident self…
You must let go of insecurity.
You must let go of trying to strive to be popular.
You must let go of the selfishness.
THAT IS CONFIDENT. THAT IS CONFIDENCE.
Standing in the truth about who you are, what and why you are.
Knowledge of the truth will set you free.
Confidence is freedom. Because confidence is truth.
Please grab your SACRED S.O.L. D.A.T.E. JOURNAL (Daily Action To Engage yourself.)
TODAY’S SACRED S.O.L. STEP:
Write down when you feel the most confident.
“I feel most confident when _______________.”
Take a look at it, and why it allows you to feel so confident.
Focus on it. Then ask yourself, “What’s TRUE about this for me?”
FOCUS ON THE TRUTH ABOUT YOU.
Thank you for being here, and allowing me to sip on life with you.
Please come over to WomenSippingOnLife.com for some free resources, including my Engagement Checklist + Evaluation Rating, Six Sacred S.O.L. DATE Secrets…and a FREE copy of my best-selling book, Date Yourself Well. You can also check out my Dr. Shannon Facebook Page for more daily S.O.L. TRAINING.
I look forward to seeing you again tomorrow. Please invite your best girlfriends to come and join our S.O.L. PARTY.
xo Dr. Shannon. Inspiring minds that want to grow and hearts that want to know, so you can love you, your life, and your life’s work well. ONE SIP AT A TIME.
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